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Friday Sep 20, 2019
Friday Sep 20, 2019
EPISODE 72
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**Now Twice A Week: Every Wednesday there’s a brand new Success Sensei Blog, Podcast and Vlog. Every Friday we’re bringing you the Friday Blitz – a shorter, sharper, shockier Success Sensei Podcast and Vlog.
By Roundhouse Rob, The Success Sensei
Robert Devane is a serial entrepreneur and experienced investor as well as a former martial arts multiple World champion and professional MMA fighter with over 20 years of coaching experience.
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Wednesday Sep 18, 2019
Wednesday Sep 18, 2019
EPISODE 71
There’s a two-fold meaning to this week’s blog. Let’s deal with the physical first. This is a situation I’ve recently experienced (which led to this blog post) and one that I’ve experienced many times over the past 20 years+ coaching martial arts. A student comes in to train but they have a hand injury so they cannot hit the punch bag or focus mitts. Nothing unusual there I hear you say, but sometimes it’s easy to figure out that it isn’t a training injury. Something has bubbled up their anger to the point of them lashing out and striking a hard object. This type of a reaction in an emotional situation can have severe consequences, especially if lasting damage is done to the limb or if it escalates to further self harm or even lashing out at another person.
This isn’t a judgemental piece even though it is stupid behaviour. I’ve lashed out in anger in the past and I was never proud of letting that emotion come over me. Martial arts attempts to teach you to be in control of your emotions. This may seem strange to you, especially if you imagine competitive fighting as a form of violence, but I can safely say that I never felt any anger towards my opponent during my professional MMA fights. Anger when fighting is an inefficient driver with too many negative consequences.
The primary stereotype is that younger men are more prone to this behaviour but do not think for a second that women or older men cannot and do not lash out in anger.
An uncontrolled display of anger isn’t cool. It’s not a display of dominance. Anger doesn’t reach the best conclusion in any situation.
Now the non-physical lashing out in anger:
Verbally lashing out in anger is an example of compounding or escalating an already bad situation. Am I advising not defending yourself? Absolutely not. I’m advising not to respond with uncontrolled anger which could make the situation worse for all concerned. If you’re someone that experiences guilt, uncontrolled outbursts will always lead you there.
Taking any type of immediate action in a highly charged and emotional state is ill advised.
While I’m not advocating revenge, don’t forget about the famous expression. “Revenge is a dish best served cold”. Even for revenge purposes it’s not a good idea to react in anger.
Okay, so what do you do when you feel your anger is rising?
- The most powerful thing you can do is to remove yourself from the situation before you over heat. Simply walking away is nearly always an option. Life experience does make it easier to avoid the people and situations that could trigger you. The wiser you become, the easier it is to anticipate certain events.
- Concentrating on your breathing and attempting to slow things down in your mind can also help.
- If it’s possible to use words to escalate situations then it’s also possible to use words to de-escalate them. Perhaps you could use a few extra pre-anger verbal de-escalators. That’s home work for you. Ask someone who you know is good at positively dealing with confrontation. Somebody you look up to. Ask them what they would do or what they would say in each given scenario. A wealth of knowledge could be learnt from others with experience.
- Obviously I’m going to advocate hitting the punch bag as the ultimate way to help level out the emotions and to reduce stress. All sports and exercise can help to reduce a build-up of energy and frustration.
Despite the complex chemical response that takes place in our bodies due to adrenaline and despite our egos, we do have more control over our emotions than we may think.
We’re not trying to eliminate emotion from our lives but we are attempting to manage uncontrolled aggression that can end up hurting more than just a knuckle.
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**Now Twice A Week: Every Wednesday there’s a brand new Success Sensei Blog, Podcast and Vlog. Every Friday we’re bringing you the Friday Blitz – a shorter, sharper, shockier Success Sensei Podcast and Vlog.
By Roundhouse Rob, The Success Sensei
Robert Devane is a serial entrepreneur and experienced investor as well as a former martial arts multiple World champion and professional MMA fighter with over 20 years of coaching experience.
For more amazing FREE content please visit:
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Friday Sep 13, 2019
Friday Sep 13, 2019
EPISODE 70 and it's The Friday BLITZ!
Wednesday Sep 11, 2019
Wednesday Sep 11, 2019
Friday Sep 06, 2019
Friday Sep 06, 2019
It's THE FRIDAY BLITZ and podcast episode 68
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By Roundhouse Rob, The Success Sensei
Robert Devane is a serial entrepreneur and experienced investor as well as a former martial arts multiple World champion and professional MMA fighter with over 20 years of coaching experience.
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Wednesday Sep 04, 2019
Friday Aug 30, 2019
Friday Aug 30, 2019
IT'S THE FRIDAY BLITZ!
The Success Sensei Episode 66
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**Now Twice A Week: Every Wednesday there’s a brand new Success Sensei Blog, Podcast and Vlog. Every Friday we’re bringing you the Friday Blitz – a shorter, sharper, shockier Success Sensei Podcast and Vlog.
By Roundhouse Rob, The Success Sensei
Robert Devane is a serial entrepreneur and experienced investor as well as a former martial arts multiple World champion and professional MMA fighter with over 20 years of coaching experience.
For more amazing FREE content please visit:
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Wednesday Aug 28, 2019
Wednesday Aug 28, 2019
Episode 65
The sad and sorry fact is that bullying will never be fully eradicated. Bullying is even less socially acceptable now than ever but in some ways it may have been driven underground. Bullying isn’t just restricted to children as it can also take place in work and sport environments by adults on adults. Social media has made bullying even more complicated. There are many different types of bullying. While we are all working to reduce bullying, it is important to also work on reducing your chances of being bullied.
- PROJECT CONFIDENCE
If you concentrate on improving your eye contact, your posture, your stride while walking, your hand shake and the way that you greet others, this will help you to bully-proof yourself. These could also have the added benefits of improving your posture and your happiness/confidence levels. Bullies notoriously prefer weaker appearing targets. Projecting confidence shows that you are not prepared to be a victim. Have the confidence to be confident. Your confidence should be warm and inviting and not arrogant or aggressive.
- RESPECT YOURSELF
Self-respect may take a little longer to achieve but basically, if you don’t respect yourself, you may allow others not to respect you too. How do you respect yourself? In order to keep it simple we’ll agree that living your life in accordance with your own moral beliefs should make it easier to respect yourself.
- IMPROVE YOUR HEALTH
If you can improve your diet and increase your fitness and strength, it should make you a harder target for a bully. It will also give you a confidence boost and improve your overall health and longevity. Win, win and win.
- MANAGE YOUR ONLINE PRESENCE
Why follow people who make you feel bad about yourself? Do you really need those frenemies? Do you need to be a part of a toxic group? You can have more control over the content you view and the content you put out there. You will need to actively self-monitor and liberally use unfriend, block, delete, unlike and remove anything that negatively affects your mental state. Some people don’t use twitter because they feel it can be a nasty place. Some people don’t like Facebook because they feel it can be very negative. I have several friends who use absolutely no social media at all. Imagine that!
- TAKE A SELF-DEFENCE COURSE
Are you shocked that The Success Sensei is recommending this one?! You’re lucky I’m not suggesting a lifelong study of the martial arts! I’ll remained unbiased and simply say that if you wish to know how to defend yourself, should the need arise, then take up any self-defence course and get the ball rolling. Bullies don’t like people who can defend themselves.
- INCREASE YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS
There’s safety in numbers and the wider your network of real friends, the more people you will have to stick up for you if you need a bit of back up. The more experience you have of dealing with a wide range of people, the easier you will find it to get on with the majority of people. Communication can be a learned skill that continues to develop with experience.
- AVOID TOXIC PEOPLE
It’s not possible to get on with everybody. Everyone won’t be your friend. Certain people just don’t get on so to prolong unnecessary contact could lead to unwanted situations arising. Your time and energy are very limited so be ruthless in your selection of people you wish to hang out with as well as those you don’t. It doesn’t have to be a mean spirited selection as nobody should notice your decision.
- AVOID UNECESSARY DRAMA
Some people can seem like they love the attention they get from the drama in their lives. Gossip and drama don’t make life any more exciting. In fact, if you are pursuing your goals, they are a distraction from your path. It can be so easy to get roped into other people’s dramatic situations and it’s also not necessary to turn the volume up on your own problems instead of simply handling them.
- MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS
There are many things that cannot be controlled but you do have a large degree of control over your own emotions. Sometimes being able to laugh off insults can keep situations from escalating. You don’t need to engage your ego or clash with people that you don’t respect.
- CONFIDE IN FAMILY AND CLOSE FRIENDS
If you need help then make sure you ask for it. Not everyone can understand hinting. Having people who you are close enough to talk to and letting them know how you feel is not only therapeutic but they may be able to help too. Bottling things up isn’t healthy. Don’t allow things to escalate. Deal with situations as early as possible. If you suspect a potential bullying situation could occur and you can’t remove yourself from the situation, inform a trusted friend to get their opinion.
I really hope that this serves as a preventative blog and that nobody reading this is currently struggling with being bullied. If you are affected by any of the issues above, please seek the appropriate help or talk to someone you feel comfortable talking to.
I would love to hear your views. Please get in touch using any of the channels below. All comments, reviews, subscribes, likes and shares are greatly appreciated. Thank you for all your continued support.
**Now Twice A Week: Every Wednesday there’s a brand new Success Sensei Blog, Podcast and Vlog. Every Friday we’re bringing you the Friday Blitz – a shorter, sharper, shockier Success Sensei Podcast and Vlog.
By Roundhouse Rob, The Success Sensei
Robert Devane is a serial entrepreneur and experienced investor as well as a former martial arts multiple World champion and professional MMA fighter with over 20 years of coaching experience.
For more amazing FREE content please visit:
The Success Sensei on Apple itunes
https://itunes.apple.com/ie/podcast/the-success-sensei-podcast/id1448626122?mt=2
The Success Sensei on Android
https://successsensei.podbean.com
The Success Sensei Blog
http://www.thesuccesssensei.blogspot.com
The Success Sensei on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZG1Ly9zBKc5ZZ134dkjeHA
The Success Sensei on Facebook
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Friday Aug 23, 2019
Friday Aug 23, 2019
Episode 64 and it's The Friday Blitz!
Wednesday Aug 21, 2019
Wednesday Aug 21, 2019